A Few Things I’m Going To Change

If the hecticness of the last few weeks has taught me anything, it’s that I can’t summarise all the things I’ve learned in one sentence.  I mean, I have been sitting here for the last 10 minutes trying to figure out how to make it all fit into one succinct phrase that would perfectly sum it all up, but it’s just not possible.  Maybe after you read this you can write that sentence for me, but for now I’m going to break it up.

Last week I briefly chatted about how I may have gone slightly over the edge with my photography course.  It’s not the courses fault obvs, it’s my own.  The good news is that I’m feeling much better but I think it’s in the hindsight of no longer being committed to so much.  Everything sort of piqued in the last two weeks and now that it’s over it’s a like a weight off my shoulders.

But those couple of weeks taught me a few things and so I thought I’d share some things that I learned.  And more importantly maybe, are the changes that I’m going to be making to my lifestyle.

1. It’s OK to say NO…

The biggest thing I realised in the last few weeks is that I agree to take on too much.  I just say yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.  I’ll do that.  Don’t worry, I have it covered.  I’ll get it.  Need something done in a ridiculous amount of time with a high amount of stress?  I’m on it.

Must be the FOMO that I just can’t shake, but I hate feeling like I’m missing out or worse, that I’ll be letting someone down by not doing/being/seeing/saying/writing something.  It’s stupid because the more I take on, the less I can do well.  So no more overloading.

2. Putting your family first is more than OK

I used to feel guilty about turning something down because we’d had a bus week and just wanted to connect again as a family.  I will not feel that guilt anymore.  Or I’ll try not to anyway.

3. Social Media is great.  In small doses.

I’m not one to declare a mass social media break.  Or deletion of Facebook.  Or friends clean out.  Or anything really.  I dig social media.  I like it in my life but even as much as I enjoy it, I know that I can only take it in small doses.  Especially at certain times of the month.  So I will no longer post just for the sake of “getting something out”.  Nor will I continue scrolling if I notice that every post is starting to make me roll my eyes or start to feel a little green with envy.  I will put my phone down, walk over to one of my children and give them a snuggle instead.

Yeah, these three things may be no brainers for most people, but I find that in this whole blogging world it does make it that much harder to enforce.  But that’s exactly what I’m going to be doing from here on out.

Cheers to being OK with squelching the FOMO.